If we want a more sensible society for all of us, then there is no way around living these values ourselves.
This is a realization that I personally am currently coming to and am aware of. If I want to help people, then I have to know how and it is also difficult to help people because every person is different and has different needs, wishes, dreams, etc.
Recently I asked a person on the street if he wanted help. He declined and said he would take cigarettes (not literally, but something like that). I offered him a place to sleep, but he refused. He said that he was his own boss and didn't need any help.
That got me thinking and I went back to myself.
Then I thought of this video:
I went to him again, asked him which cigarettes he wanted and brought him a pack of cigarettes. Then he was happy.
So maybe you can only really help people by giving them what they want. And that's the whole point. I can't go around asking people if they want help. Some will look at me funny, some will think what kind of guy is this and others will ignore me.
What do I want?
If I want to help people, then I have to know how exactly. And I have to stop trying to please everyone. This is inauthentic.
If I want to live in a more sensible society, then I have to try to be more sensible - which I haven't been able to do in the last 3 years in large part because I've hurt people and haven't been 100% honest.
I am not at liberty to tell anyone what to do or what not to do.
I can concentrate on myself and work on my projects.
Help means acquiring skills and applying them for the benefit of humanity.